I remember being told once that emotions and feelings are like waves. They come and go, rush over you and can sometimes feel all consuming – but then they wash away, and you just have to let them. You have to trust the fact that they will wash away just like waves on the shore.
Without sounding too mental, in many ways I’ve found this to be true about life in general. You just have to ride with it, you can fight against it and resist change all you want but you will never win and in the end you’ll just be left exhausted.
Somedays are stormier than others, sometimes the direction of the wave is clear and the wind, the current, everything is in your favour pushing you towards your goal. Other times it’s messy and blown over and rough.
But all are okay. Actually, all are necessary. If we didn’t have messy days we wouldn’t appreciate the calm ones. We also wouldn’t have been brave enough to change our minds, make certain decisions, take different opportunities, or be better equipped if another, bigger wave, came our way. Just like the sea, there are both calm days and stormy days and there always will be.
I guess I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately because so many different things have been rushing in and out of my life and I don’t really know which way to turn, or which wave to take. I wake up one morning so determined that I’ve decided what I want to do with my future and I plan it all out in my head. Other days I’ll wake up and have completely changed my mind, go over what I’ve been planning and realise it’s not realistic or that it’s not REALLY what I want it’s more the idea that I’m fascinated by.
The point is: we don’t have to know exactly what we want because our lives could change in a second and everything could be different! Change is one thing in life that is guaranteed and by accepting this fact we become more accepting of things that happen to us or which waves of opportunity come our way.
There are always going to be things in life that we can’t change, but by focusing our energy on the things we can will have a massive effect on what comes into our lives.
Okay I may change my mind about what I want out of my future every other week, but so what? I’m just growing as a person, and changing is part of growing up. You may find that different things become more important to you, your motives and goals have altered or that a well paid job you were striving for doesn’t actually seem too good anymore. And that’s OKAY. Allowing yourself the ability to change your mind and pursue another direction, is what makes us who we are and who we’re meant to be.
As much as some people may seem to, no-one has everything figured out. Seriously, it doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 80, if you wake up one morning and you don’t like where your life is heading anymore or you want to do something different – change it! You’re allowed to change your mind.
Basically, what I’m trying to say is this: embrace change, plan in days not years and don’t fight against the waves that come your way, ride with them 🙂